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Originally published December 9, 2021 She would have turned 21 a few days ago. December 7. She should have turned 21. Instead, she never even saw 20. I hadn't really done this so far, but I allowed myself to imagine what the day would have looked like if she had still been here. In our family, we like special meals all day long on birthdays. Since it was on a Tuesday, we would have tried to do brunch with whomever was home and available at the time. And I would have planned a special dinner and whatever dessert she requested. We are not strictly a cake and ice cream family. The birthday celebrant gets to choose two - that's right, TWO - desserts for the special day to replace the usual cake and ice cream combo. That is if they prefer something else. I'm sure I would have planned to take her to a bar for her first shot as an official adult. I envisioned her taking an hour or more to put on her makeup, mainly because she was really good at it and she could do a glam look wit
